Sext-ual Attraction

March 31, 2014 By Ande

Guest Post by Kitt Cresendo

What do you think of when you hear the word “Sexting?”

I can almost bet that the image that crossed your mind was negative…possibly even related directly to a fairly recent political or athletic scandal. What a shame!

Here’s the reality. Technology can be a scary thing…. Used for the power of good or evil. That doesn’t mean we should give up on it!

In fact, I have a little confession. I love sexting! Think about it… It’s not really any different than the little love notes we used to leave for lovers during the era when only the wealthy had cell phones. (Yeah, I know, I aged myself….but I’m okay with that.)

Today’s universe finds both parties in relationships working just to barely get by. Often our work schedules don’t quite line up perfectly. We may find ourselves working on opposite sides of town or worse, maybe one has a job that requires lots of travel! Not really conducive to open communication or maintaining a healthy sex life, right?


This is where we have an opportunity to use technology to our advantage! In the past, these circumstances could put a serious strain on a relationship. Today? The possibilities are endless! Imagine your partner sent out of town for a week on business. You’ve had a rough day and crave the mindless ecstasy an orgasm could give, but need the intimacy of being with your partner. It can be done! Maybe it looks a little something like this:

You: Today was a rough one. Need to blow off some steam and exercise won’t cut it. I’m alone in that lacy black lingerie we picked up at VS. Any ideas?

Your Partner: Damn, baby! Are you trying to kill me? I love the way you look in that outfit. I’m at dinner right now and wishing I were nibbling on your nipples instead of this salad. Tease them for me…

Or maybe you work different shifts and don’t have much time overlap at home. Why not add a bit of naughty spice to your work day? It’s a proven fact that the fear of being caught can work to enhance sexual arousal just as much as exhibitionism and voyeurism. So why not try it? Send a sexy little text to your lover in the middle of their work day. If they’re having a rough day, it may just brighten it completely! Make your co-workers wonder what may have you so flushed. You don’t think they’d be jealous that you have such a considerate, playful lover who wants to ensure that you always know how much you’re desired?

Or maybe you’ve always had a fantasy but weren’t sure how to approach your partner about it? Isn’t sexting just another way of playing role-play games? Why not create that scenario and see how your partner responds? Or tell him/her you’ve got a fantasy…and SHARE! Putting the fantasy to words will definitely do amazing things to your libido. What if it does great things to your partner’s as well?

You get the gist. The possibilities are endless!

Heck, if you’ve been with your partner for a long time and you trust him/her, you may even take pictures to give them visual aids. They completely enhance the experience. Here is my only warning. Keep your sexting off social media. Make it a completely one-on-one experience. There are too many opportunities for error on Facebook, Twitter, etc. The last thing you want is to accidentally broadcast photos to your universe. (Yes, this also means checking your settings to ensure that your pictures aren’t automatically uploading to some sort of photo or social media site like Picasa or Google+. And click here for a post on how to safely share online!)

But seriously…don’t discount the beauty and power of the modern love note! It truly could bring some amazing spice and intimacy to your relationship.

About Kitt Crescendo
Kitt Crescendo has always been an avid reader with a vivid imagination, cementing her role as family story teller and librarian. As a military brat, she told stories to her younger siblings to keep them entertained while they travelled the world. Following her mother’s lead, poetry was her first medium for writing. With her love of all things steamy and romantic, it was only a matter of time before she began to write her own sexy stories.

She currently lives in Florida with her best friend and husband along with her two dogs. Despite having lived in many different locales, she’s a Midwestern girl at heart. She’s passionate about music, coffee and chatting it up with people who share her passions. Connect with Kitt via her website, Facebook, Twitter and Google+.

Kitt’s steamy erotic romance stories, Three For All and Four One Night can be download via Amazon.