Guest Post by Miss Jenna Couture
Are you sitting at work thinking of how you’re going to Bring Back Desire with your lover?! Don’t worry, you’re not alone; one of the most vetted topics out there is – “How do you keep the sex fresh after years together?”
My advice: Brush your genitals! Literally, minus the toothpaste! I know this sounds nuts, but please, read on…or shall I say brush on!
I am telling my clients that they don’t have to bend like a pretzel or perform like a circus act to have the most exciting sex life. You can add simple things (like a toothbrush) or tweak your regular routine to keep things interesting (adding lights if they are usually off, bathroom counter sex, etc.).
I’ve also mentioned before that women and men have orgasms in completely different ways – women need tempo (slow…fast….slow slow…fast..thrust…etc.), and men need slow to fast!
When stimulating her clitoris you need to not beat it like your own personal tiny drum set…but graze it gently!! A soft bristled toothbrush will help you work on this and make it fun. Trade in your drum set for a harpsichord! Stroke her gently and then, get this….. TRADE!
That’s right! Have her stroke your balls with the toothbrush! Yes, I am certain you two will be quite happy with your new toy, and you don’t have to spend a lot of money! Cheap thrills in a slow economy, right?
I know you won’t fully understand this until you try brushing your way to ecstasy, so don’t even think about rolling those eyes or giving me the thumbs down UNTIL AFTER you try it. At that point, if you still aren’t buying it – I will gladly refer you to one of my good therapist friends. (Kidding!)
Please feel free to comment and tell me how much fun you’ve had with your toothbrush play. Trust me, this will bring lots and lots of desire back! Catch me on twitter @jennatimetweets for fun all day long!
* PS: I know I don’t need to say this but I DO. 1.) Please don’t use your regular toothbrush. Go out and invest in a few soft bristled toothbrushes. 2.) Make sure to dispose after your play time or wash thoroughly to keep from spreading old play time bacteria.
Miss Jenna Couture is a Sexuality Educator & Intimacy Coach. She has extensive experience in working with a full spectrum of sexuality issues from sexual desire, sexual dysfunction, and relational issues for couples and individuals. She earned her M.A. in Clinical Psychology with an emphasis in Marriage & Family Therapy from Pepperdine University.
Founder of Jenna Time, a website dedicated to educate and empower both men and female populations about their sexuality. Jenna mixes her witty humor with her vast expertise in sexuality to host her own websiode talk show. Through her private practice, she counsels and educates.