Aging doesn’t dim desire – but attitude does.
“Lust” may be a dirty little word in the Puritanical mindset… but what a joy it is to experience for the rest of us! When was the last time your pulse quickened and you felt those aching pangs of liquid longing? Or perhaps you’re thinking, “Desire? I haven’t seen her in years!”
Here’s great news! No matter what your age, that delicious little spark of lust is still inside you… looking for a good time… just waiting to ignite into full blown passion. Read on, the next few tips can change your life!
Sex researchers once classified the stages of sexual activity as arousal, plateau, and orgasm. More recently, they’ve added a new stage: it’s called desire. According to psychiatrist Rosemary Basson, desire typically follows arousal. That’s simple enough. If physical arousal is the natural precursor to desire, then we just need to give the arousal phase its proper time and attention.
That’s why women love sexy lingerie, scented candles… and my favorite arousal inducer… ‘bibliotherapy’! Arousal takes time to build. Start the process with mental foreplayearly in the day, and keep it going throughout the day. Email and cell phones make it easy!
When you finally get together with your Darling, give yourself more time to ‘get out of your head and back into bed.’ Share that glass of wine. Read those erotic short stories. Listen to romantic music. Watch a hot romantic video. Let your partner massage you with warm massage oil. Arousal will steadily build, and desire for intense sexual activity and excitement will naturally follow.
Remember, you’re not over-the-hill just because you’ve temporarily misplaced your libido. Even if it’s been years instead of days, weeks or months. Those wonderful feelings are all there waiting for you – and as you get reacquainted with your old friend lust, you’ll find the friendship is just as good, if not better, than it ever was!
For more tips, tools and resources for keeping the love, intimacy and passion alive in your relationship, visit BringBackDesire.com – where you’ll find everything a gal needs to get out of her head and back into bed.
Hey sweetie, I love this article. I was just visiting here to find something for a friend, who wants to get her mojo back.
This place is getting hotter all the time. Great stuff and good work!
Love you
Kathleen
Hello Beautiful Kathleen!
Thank you so much for swinging by and sharing the LOVE!
Your feedback means so much to me… I am truly grateful. And YES… lots of opportunity to increase intimacy and sensual excitement here at BBD… woo hoo!
Sending you love and hugs,
Ande
Hi, Ande! This is exactly what we were discussing this morning. You’re never too old. And oh my gosh, I forgot to mention texting in our talk! My husband and I finally got unlimited texting and it’s very fun (snicker)! Great post!
Thanks so much Jasmine! It’s all about allowing the Temptress to swirl to the surface… and stimulating that wonderful g-spot between the ears… which you help us all with through your delicious stories!! Thank you for swinging by and sharing the LOVE Jasmine… MUAH! Ande
With the rise of bio-identical hormones and the subsequent youthful effects on a woman’s body, having an active and satisfying sex life has become common for women after 60. This is especially fantastic, because women in this age bracket previously viewed this period as an age where their sex life was behind them. Because these women are enjoying a healthy sex life, there are numerous positive outcomes. Most importantly, many women experience a restored sense of well-bring, which even spills over into their physical vitality (e.g., energy, exercise).
When people are in their 60s, they are typically at a tranquil place spiritually because they have a true understanding of who they are and the challenges of child rearing are long behind them. This tranquility coupled with replacement of lost hormones has given women back their vitality and their sex lives. This degree of physical, emotional and sexual well-bring provides the perfect environment for any necessary vaginal surgery. Sometimes it’s tightening (i.e., Laser Vaginal Rejuvenation) to improve gratification. Sometimes, it’s labiaplasty (or Designer Laser Vaginoplasty) to restore the youthful appearance of the vagina (as the vagina, like any other part of the body, ages). Ultimately, options are available to enhance your sex life, even after 60!
Thanks for swinging by Jake and sharing the LOVE of Aging and Dr. Robert Jason!
I’m personally not a huge fan of labiaplasty, primarily because so many young women (18 year olds!) are using it to make their already precious and beautiful vulvas look like something out of an airbrushed and photoshopped image. It frightens me how popular this procedure has become… when, IMHO, it’s all about embracing your vulva’s beauty. That said, I can understand how an older woman may want or need to have Laser Vaginal Rejuvenation – and, like plastic surgery – may wish to have her labia trimmed and pulled back. It’s just not my thing.
MUAH!
Ande