Aging doesn’t dim desire – but attitude does.
“Lust” may be a dirty little word in the Puritanical mindset… but what a joy it is to experience for the rest of us! When was the last time your pulse quickened and you felt those aching pangs of liquid longing? Or perhaps you’re thinking, “Desire? I haven’t seen her in years!”
Here’s great news! No matter what your age, that delicious little spark of lust is still inside you… looking for a good time… just waiting to ignite into full blown passion. Read on, the next few tips can change your life!
Sex researchers once classified the stages of sexual activity as arousal, plateau, and orgasm. More recently, they’ve added a new stage: it’s called desire. According to psychiatrist Rosemary Basson, desire typically follows arousal. That’s simple enough. If physical arousal is the natural precursor to desire, then we just need to give the arousal phase its proper time and attention.
That’s why women love sexy lingerie, scented candles… and my favorite arousal inducer… ‘bibliotherapy’! Arousal takes time to build. Start the process with mental foreplayearly in the day, and keep it going throughout the day. Email and cell phones make it easy!
When you finally get together with your Darling, give yourself more time to ‘get out of your head and back into bed.’ Share that glass of wine. Read those erotic short stories. Listen to romantic music. Watch a hot romantic video. Let your partner massage you with warm massage oil. Arousal will steadily build, and desire for intense sexual activity and excitement will naturally follow.
Remember, you’re not over-the-hill just because you’ve temporarily misplaced your libido. Even if it’s been years instead of days, weeks or months. Those wonderful feelings are all there waiting for you – and as you get reacquainted with your old friend lust, you’ll find the friendship is just as good, if not better, than it ever was!
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