How Good Girls Can Finish First, Even When They’re Naughty!

“When I’m good, I’m very good, but when I’m bad, I’m better.” ~ Mae West

If you’re like me, you were raised to be a ‘good girl.’ Polite, selfless, modest… the same characteristics that create a people pleasing, follow-the-rules perfectionist. Yikes!

The naughty girl’s outspoken, independent, authentic, risk taking behavior (aka: center of attention, proud, rebel and rule breaker) was frowned upon… and being labeled a Bad Girl was social suicide.

The struggle between good girl and bad girl has hindered many a gal’s pleasure and satisfaction in the bedroom. It’s time to shift this perception… in society and within ourselves.

So let’s forget what we were told while growing up and create a new paradigm where we combine both the naughty and the nice into one fulfilled and satisfied gal.

Liking and enthusiastically enjoying sex does not mean you’re a hussy. Go ahead… give yourself permission to be naughty AND nice! Keep the good manners and charming personality… but allow your Sexy Siren to strut her stuff, too.

Because pretending to like sex is like having a romantic meal with someone who’s watching television. It doesn’t work.

Here are a few tips to get your naughty side fired up:

clip_image002[4] Buy some gorgeous, sexy lingerie to show yourself (and your guy!) how hot you really are.

Trust me… your man is not looking at your thighs and derriere the same way you do. He’s thrilled to have those sexy limbs wrapped around him … dimples and all!

clip_image002[4] While listening to your favorite sexy, romantic music, take a hot shower or bath… cream on lots of lotion and spritz your body with perfume. Are you feeling the Siren surfacing yet?

clip_image002[4] Set the bedroom with lit candles, lowered lights – and then summon your Siren by looking at your darling from under your eye lashes with your head slightly tilted. Remember… he is so not thinking about your dress size right now!

clip_image002[4] Move your body slowly and sensuously to the music… allow yourself to be sexy… feel your body responding… and notice your Siren swirling to the surface.

Begin stroking yourself lightly… tracing your erogenous zones lightly with your fingertips… first with your eyes closed… then look right into your darling’s eyes with a slight smile on your face.

clip_image002[4] Need a little more inspiration? Or feeling a little shy about asking for what you want? It’s OK! Grab a copy of your bedtime stories for adults… and start sharing which scenes turn you on. Read out loud or just point… you are safe and can be vulnerable and open with your sweetheart.

The best part of owning your Sexy Siren is knowing you are worthy of delicious sensual pleasure and deeper intimacy with your beloved partner.

Explore… find out what your Sexy Siren wants … let yourself go… and allow the good times to unfold. Your good girl will be so happy… and she’ll finish first, too.

Comments

  1. I love that you inspire women to feel good in their body and your message of being in the moment and present with what you are doing. Your man is not caring about your thighs and derriere. Keep up the great work Ande!

  2. Kimberly says:

    Love this! I always tell me “sexy” is a state of mind not a state of body. How crazy is that! Love that we are always on the same page. xo

    • Ande says:

      Hi Kimberly! I always love it when you stop by and share your beautiful Self with us – thank you! You and I are so lucky to be sharing the ‘be Tuned In and Turned On with your Sensational Self’ message. It’s not about size, color or even hairstyle… it’s how you feel that counts. YAY! LOVE YOU! Ande

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